User Profile

I love movies. Let's just get that out of the way first. I used to be a bit ashamed of the fact that I can quote movies, or recognize a movie by seeing a one-second visual from it, but I fully embrace that aspect of my personality now. I like them funny, sad, deep, foreign, independent, short, good, bad, or ugly.

That said, I'm a free-thinking, liberal-minded woman with a sense of humor, who was married for 20 years - and oops! Turns out he's gay. We tried for a long time to make it work anyway - but regardless of the love there - he's gay - and I'm not going to grow the parts, nor do I want to. I like my parts. The real shame is that the society we live in perpetuated much of the incredible pain that both he and I went through. Had he been accepted for being who he is, he never would have attempted to change and marry someone of the opposite sex. There are over two million couples in this country alone who are in "mixed orientation" marriages, or who are in the process of ending them. If people TRULY believed in FAMILY VALUES, they would accept people for who they ARE instead of forcing them into roles they are not meant to play.

I'm intelligent (which is a strange thing to claim, since I grew up thinking I was a distractable, thick-headed goofball; I'm still distractable - look, a bird!). I enjoy discussing music, art, writing, politics, religion, or whatever else might come up in conversation. I do NOT enjoy religious fundamentalism (I was one once upon a time), and organized religion leaves me cold. I do enjoy debate, unless of course you're going to simply stop using logic and reason and start telling me I'm going to burn in hell unless I repent, or that I need to deny science and facts in order to have faith.

I am working on me for the first time in my life, after many years of taking care of others. Currently, I am shrinking at a very nice pace. I've realized that I miss activities like running, hiking, and simply being able to get up flights of stairs without huffing and puffing. It is easy to gain weight when you are married to someone who isn't all that concerned with how you look. You stop paying attention. I'm paying attention now, and the Me that was here just a few short monts ago doesn't even look like the Me now. In a few months, I expect I'll look back to today and see another Me that I no longer look like. I'm evolving physically and mentally.

I've discovered that I'm fun, I'm smart, I'm sexy, and I'm humble (yeah - being facetious). I like humor; in fact, it's a must. Humorless people are boring and a bit sad.

I am currently in North Carolina, and while it was never on my radar as a place I wanted to live (I'm from the Midwest, then Florida), I have begun to see it as home. I have made beautiful friends. I feel at home here. So I think I'll stick around.

Friends (4):

Friend of (8):